GUILTY--- Do You Still Fell It

GUILTY

We all feel guilty about one or the other thing every now and then. For Some people it's merely for some times until they get into something else to divert their attention from it and for some, it's a thing of the lifetime. They are so much into it that they can't even think of anything else apart from themselves to be the reason of occurrence of the thing for which they feel so much guilty about. It becomes part and parcel of their life and existence in respect of the thing they feel like having done which they shouldn’t have done. The fact about guilt feeling is it's one of such mental pains that need the most of us only to get rid of and from. One can get over the feeling of pains and sufferings of physical kind by getting used to it but this doesn’t apply in case of guilty feeling because it becomes the part of our conscience and thus one part of our own self keeps on blaming us for it and we are so much into it that we don't even resist because we knew that doing it wasn’t good and yet we did it or we feel later that ‘yes, it would have been avoided had I been more careful.’ So gradually we ourselves become the one to blame us; we scold ourselves sometimes even abuse but are not ready ever to realise and judge the thing

      Before getting too deep inside first we actually need to understand what actually Guilt is?
Guilt in actual is at small level the bad feeling of having done anything which we decided or reconciled not to do but at the time when the thought of doing it came up to our mind we couldn’t resist ourselves. This primarily happens in case of our addictions only. Most of us are addicted to some or the other things. For some like me, even being addicted is of enough guilt that when I think in my normal time about it I begin feeling sort of guilty while some are able to take it casually.
Guilty feelers have two categories: one of those who are not so very addicted and thus even after surrendering after their vice they are begin feeling so much guilt that its impact retains in their mind throughout the day, hampering their each and every thing or work they do. While there are some others who are addicted to some things and yet after having done they still feel terrible about it. While the third category also exists that doesn’t feel anything and they are good with their vices as well. But they belong to non-guilty feeling categories and are happy in their vices as well. Well if we observe closely in all these cases it's only the way or perception of the vices or things that has been done. It is only how we see things and while the former case (of feeling guilt) has scope of improvement but at the same time has issues of disturbing everything else if we are not able to get over the guilty feeling. Contrary goes for the non-guilty feelers; they have very limited scope of improvement because they’ve adapted themselves to it yet they are highly less likely to disturb their normal living and day-to-day functioning. So the solution to this is: since it's the case of our vices or addiction I’d say we all must feel some guilt of surrendering to our vices or addiction and we must keep feeling guilty for it BUT only to the extent of keeping in mind that we did what we shouldn’t have done (without allowing it to disturb our routine functioning); so as Not to repeat it again. We just need to remember that we are feeling guilty of not being able to stop our-self along with simultaneously keeping the thought and resolution of “I Don't Wanna feel Guilty for this Again” by not repeating it again. Just this much should be the level of guilt feeling “I Don't Want to Feel Guilty for this Again”

      Another and most traumatic level of guilty feeling is from such incidences in one slice of our life or say one pizza part of our life. The incidences that happens in our presence and our slight carelessness or ignorance we become the witness of something very traumatic and then we keep on blaming ourselves and keep feeling the guilty of it throughout. We begin holding grudge from ourselves that we are responsible for it and we have to suffer the pain of it and make us keep on realizing the fact of our being responsible. It begins with one part of our conscience starting to blame us and then in the fits of our attachment to that person or things we instead of trying to come out of the feeling of loss that we suffered we start accepting the blames of our other half. Then slowly we become one with the other half of our conscience and no more need that part to blame us coz we start blaming our own selves. What we fail to realize is, the fact that we have already suffered and perhaps still suffering the loss of that person or thing and now feeling guilty from it, is like dishonouring their memories. They, those people, would have never wanted us to feel guilty because of anything happening to them. It's like we are making those loved ones for whom we are feeling guilty, as the cause of our problems and mental disturbance. IS THIS OUR LOVE FOR THEM? Is This Why We Loved Them So Much? ; That we make ‘Them’ the cause of our pains and sufferings. Just consider once the way they’d have loved us and they loved us. Aren’t we disrespecting their memories? Because owing to the fact that they loved and we love them isn’t it a disrespect of their love that every time we are thinking of them, instead of feeling good and happy we are feeling bad; (no matter whether for them or for ourselves) but the point is We Are Feeling Bad thinking of them. Is this our love for them? Is this how they’d have wanted us to remember them or is it how we wanted ourselves to remember them; as a pain or as a pleasure, as someone whom we loved and who dearly reciprocated our love…!!!
Well, if you ask me, I would never like to remember my mother this way. No matter how many guilty feelings I might be having for not doing what I should have done. Yet, whenever I remember her, it's always the best way, for those best things and words she always showed her true love through.

      Thus GUILT is simply the way to hold on to those bad things of which we wanna get rid of. It simply is the feeling that we develop in us and unknowingly dishonour the memories of our loved ones. Those dearly loved ones thinking of whom, instead of re-living the feelings of their love, we begin feeling discomfort just because we are feeling Guilty. Merely to blame our self we forget all the love they gave us and the love for which and with which they wanted us to remember them and love them forever. Just for momentarily pain we feel like bestowing on our self we forget the love they loved us with and in our fits of punishing ourselves through guilt, we d0nt punish us but rather make the memories of our loved ones the source of our pain.
So next time if you ever feel guilty about anything, just think, feeling guilty is simply the way to cling onto something you wanna get rid of, instead of getting ways to get away of it (if it's your vice) and is the way you are Dishonouring and Disrespecting the one you love and who loved you and still loves you a lot. Whatever you do just don't dishonour their love….!!!